Mrs Surrinder Johal | Accredited Counsellor | Woodford Green | NCS

Mrs Surrinder Johal

Member Status: Accredited

Member No: NCS15-02090

Location: Woodford Green

Key Worker Counselling

I was born in India immigrated to England when I was three with my family. My life however was mapped out for me from the moment I was born. I was taught never to question anything but to do as l was told – all decisions were taken out of my hands – what I studied, my career, who l married, how to be a good Asian wife and mother Inside something was hollow which l could not fill. As the children grew up l worked longer hours in my career in housing to avoid the sadness within my marriage and to be able to continue the perfect marriage image I had created. still there and it became unbearable to ignore and I had to make decisions to change my life.

By the time l was 37 years old l had suffered the biggest grieve of my life – my mother committed suicide less then 2 years after my father died had from a massive heart attack. I was devastated my world crumbled around me and I was left empty and hollow inside. All l just wanted to hide away - be invisible.

And that’s how l stayed for years I numbered all those feeling by working excessively, because l thought l was doing right by my kids and not realising the damage l was causing them, and by drinking. My marriage did not improve, l continued to endure the emotional and sexual abuse. I was told by family that l had to stay otherwise no one would marry my beautiful daughter, so l stayed 13 more years keeping up appearances despite the sadness within my marriage and to be able to continue with the ‘perfect family’ image

Then just after my 50th . Birthday l finally left my husband; it was a spur of the moment decision and within 3 months of me leaving he committed suicide.

It was at this stage l dealt with all the grieve l had experienced losing my dad, my mum and my husband with an array of feelings of anger, rage guilt and sadness These are all natural feelings which at the time but l did not understand them
I slowly came to accept the all the grieve that l experienced, but the pain did not go away completely but l has come to live with the pain of losing my mum in tragic circumstances

After my husband’s death there was no script that l wanted to follow but my own gut feelings. l decided to invest in my personal self-worth and re-examine who l wanted to be for me and my family and no longer to please others. I decided to change my career in housing and decide want l wanted to do, develop self-love something that l never had done. I had some counselling initially and slowly l decided to follow my compassion to help other Asian women on their journey.

I gained qualifications in hypnotherapy and counselling and read a lot of books on self-help. l now wants to share my experience and knowledge to help you on your journey to become visible again – bring the colour back into your life – you only have one life

Let me give you a helping hand to move forward through your grief and loss and become visible again

  • Qualifications & Experience
    I have an Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Dip PC)
    Membership no; NCS15-02090
    Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling, qualification;
    Diploma in Counselling Skills and Theory;
    Certificate in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills;
  • What I can help with
    • Abuse – Emotional, Physical, Sexual
    • Anxiety
    • Assertiveness / Self-confidence / Self-esteem
    • Bereavement / Loss
    • Cultural issues
    • Emotional issues
    • Self-defeating behaviours
    • Self-esteem
  • Languages Spoken
    • Punjabi
    • English
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