Mr Nicholas Langley

Member Status: Senior Accredited

Member No: NCS16-03828

Location: Hythe

With hundreds of models (ways of working) currently available, every therapist that you visit will work slightly differently to the other. If you also consider the need for the person to be a ‘good fit for you’ then the task of finding the right therapist can be a daunting one. I will do my best to describe the way that I work and try to give you an idea of who I am so that you can decide, as best as possible, whether I might be a good fit for you:

Like many other therapists, I didn’t look for the training or dream of becoming a therapist when I was a kid, but rather, ‘it’ found me a little later on. I love my job for many reasons but my favourite part is the sense of meaningful connection and deep understanding that grows between therapist and client. Irvin Yalom, a renowned psychotherapist, referred to his clients as ‘fellow travellers’¹ and this is a stance that I have willingly adopted. I’ll talk with you like a human being and we will focus on making sense of life, and the things that are happening within it.

My other hat is that of a teacher (I train others to become Counsellors), and occasionally if it feels appropriate to us both, I am happy to share some theory and work with you in developing ways of understanding what’s going on. Eventually, we can use this to explore what your choices are in ‘moving forward’. Sometimes this can be helpful, and other times not so much, so I will take my lead from you and consider it as an option rather than a necessity.

My other passion is being outdoors and working in the fresh air: Over the past three years, I have been working with my clients outside in the form of nature-based therapy, very much like walking therapy, however, sometimes we stand still or find a bench to sit on.

Whilst not especially common in the UK, outdoor therapy has been increasing in popularity, and for a reason. I find this type of work particularly suited to people who find the direct eye contact of a face to face session a little uncomfortable. It also carries benefits for those of us that process whilst ‘moving’ and I’m continuously struck by how productive these sessions can be. In addition, it gives us the opportunity to connect with our environment and revisit a part of ourselves that we may have let go of when we were much younger.

- My work is often long term (more than 6 months), however, I prefer the term ‘open-ended’, as my clients are welcome to end, take a break and return when it feels right to them.

- I offer a reduced fee for the initial meeting so that you can decide on whether I’m the right therapist for you. It’s really important that you feel comfortable working with me, so please do visit other therapists; I won’t be offended if somebody else feels like a better fit.

- I work with both adults and young people, and I am happy to offer my Counselling service to anyone 14 years and older. Please note that if you are under 18, I will require your parent or legal guardian to sign a consent form.

¹ Yalom, I. (2003). The gift of therapy. London: Piatkus.

  • Qualifications & Experience
    Currently Studying - Level 7 MA Counselling and Psychotherapy Practice (2019 - 2022)

    Level 6 Diploma in Counselling Supervision (2017)

    Level 5 Dip. Teaching in the Lifelong Learning Sector (2015)

    Level 4 Dip. Theory and Practice of Counselling (2011)

    Level 3 Cert. Counselling Skills (2009)
  • What I can help with
    • Abuse – Emotional, Physical, Sexual
    • Anger Management
    • Anxiety
    • Assertiveness / Self-confidence / Self-esteem
    • Autism & Aspergers Syndrome
    • Bereavement / Loss
    • Bullying
    • Depression
    • Divorce & Separation
    • Eating disorders
    • Family
    • Financial difficulties
    • Gender identity
    • Generally unhappy with your life
    • Illness and dying
    • Mindfulness
    • Parenting skills
    • Post-traumatic stress (PTSD)
    • Pregnancy related issues
    • Relationships
    • Self-harm
    • Sexuality Identity
    • Shyness / Social Phobia
    • Suicidal feelings
    • Trauma
    • Violence / Victim support
    • Emotional issues
    • Exams
    • Panic attacks
    • Relaxation
    • Self esteem
    • Self-defeating behaviours
    • Shyness
    • Start exercising
    • Stress
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