Mrs Clare Gale
Member Status: Accredited
Member No: NCS19-07850
I am passionate about supporting Mums and Carers through Counselling because caring for others can feel overwhelming. We can gently explore your difficulties together, find ways to help you to refuel and put yourself back in the picture. I work nationally on Zoom, or locally face to face in Totnes, Devon.
Having worked as a Counsellor for Counselling for Carers and Totnes Carers Counselling, I have developed experience in the challenges that often face Carers. I am also a Director of Mums4aChange where I help to run ‘Time for You’ groups to support Mums who have children with additional needs.
Caring for others, either as a Mother or in an unexpected Caring role, is often something that is undervalued in society. It can form a massive, sometimes overwhelming, part of your life. I will create a space for you to work through your feelings gently and compassionately, and find ways to refuel yourself.
It is surprising how often I meet clients who have not actually realised that they are a Carer because they are ‘just’ looking after their family. But if you’re providing support for someone who couldn’t manage on their own, then you are. This additional role on top of life as it was before, is often life-changing.
And if you are a Mum, whatever stage of motherhood you’re at, there are certainly challenges. We can work together to explore and navigate the highs and lows of life, and ultimately find ways to feel more fulfilled.
My Counselling Approach
Coming for Counselling can be nerve-wracking and daunting, as for many of us it is a new experience. My aim is to offer the space for you to say what needs to be said, in a supportive, confidential and non-judgmental way.
Not sure what to say or where to start? No problem – it all has a way of being said when it needs to be, and we will go at your pace. Never underestimate the power of someone coming alongside you and meeting you where you are right now.
In addition to this gentle, supportive approach, I am trained to add in other counselling tools if they are useful for you.
Depending on what issues you want to work on, we might delve into some CBT techniques (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). This can help us to notice how our thought processes can influence how we feel and behave. Together we might identify unhelpful thought and behaviour patterns and then work on ways to make them more helpful.
You might be looking for tools to manage anxiety. We could look at mindfulness techniques, calming breathing or journalling to help keep you grounded.
Sometimes I will add in a bit of an explanation about the science behind how our minds and bodies are programmed to work. It can be reassuring to unravel the reasons behind why you are experiencing things in the way that you are.
Some clients like to get creative, so let me know if you’d like to work this way. We might work with imagery, letter writing, poetry, sand play or objects to explore relationship dynamics and to get a deeper understanding of yourself. Being creative can activate a different part of the brain, to help you to process your emotions.
Using this ‘Integrative Counselling’ approach, I can be flexible and tailor the kind of Counselling to best suit your needs.
As our Counselling sessions develop, you might feel that you are on a journey of self-discovery, with some light-bulb moments of clarity. It is also highly likely that we might explore some of the areas of your life that feel a bit uncomfortable and areas where you feel stuck. Some sessions will feel like you are going round in circles trying to understand what is going on for you. I will support you through this compassionately and give you time for your thoughts and feelings to be heard and explored.
No matter what your constraints might be, we will gently look for new ways you can support yourself and shine. This is why I use the word ‘re-vibe’ – I’m not sure if its a real word, but its that sense of rediscovering yourself and reigniting the real you.
A bit more about me
I have a son with complex medical needs, so I am also personally on the path of navigating my way through life as a Mum and Carer. My son had a Liver Transplant at a young age, and one area of work that I now specialise in is Counselling for people who are going through the experience of having an Organ Transplant. I work with either the transplant recipient themselves or supporting a family member through the process.
Before family life and becoming a Counsellor I enjoyed a vibrant career in Marketing both in London and in Devon. I am now based in Totnes, in Devon, but I work with people from all over the UK.
I am a qualified and registered member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and adhere to their Code of Ethics. This register has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
How I can help you
My aim is to meet you wherever you are in your life right now. The benefits of being truly listened to and heard, by someone who ‘gets it’ are huge.
It might be that you just need to have someone to offload to, or want help with managing anxiety or feelings of being overwhelmed. You may be struggling with juggling all the roles you find yourself in, and are looking for support to avoid burnout.
Perhaps you feel that you have ‘lost yourself’ along the way and want to take time to process where you are now, and what changes you might like to make in your life.
Get in touch
It can certainly be daunting, nerve-racking and even downright scary deciding to take the plunge into seeing a Counsellor. I encourage you to turn up your braveness and get in touch so we can arrange an Introductory Session.
I look forward to meeting you.
- Qualifications & ExperienceLevel 4 Advanced Diploma in Counselling (MNCS Accred)
Director at Mums4aChange Community Interest Company, where I help to run ‘Time for You’ groups to support Mums who have children with additional needs.
Volunteer Counsellor at Totnes Carers Counselling
Volunteer Counsellor at Counselling for Carers
Online and Telephone Counselling extended course (Counselling Tutor, NCS recognised)
- What I can help with
- Ageing and related issues
- Assertiveness / Self-confidence / Self-esteem
- Bereavement / Loss
- Emotional issues
- Generally unhappy with your life
- Illness and dying
- Parenting skills
- Self-defeating behaviours
- Languages Spoken